A reminder to myself that even on days where there was alot of exclusivity and isming, there are still alot of opportunities for appreciating red lights, and green light moments.
Yesterday she was about 50% on everything I would say. But am learning, learning slowly to appreciate her red lights. When I appreciate her isms the more she will eventually connect with me, I believe. The more I push her when she is red the more she will choose to exclude me.
Her favourite isms of the moment are her foam blocks (new toy since last week). And she always requests for them.
Am not sure how to do about the colouring. She really resists the coloring within the lines. Is this something I really want to push for and build resistance around? Maybe I could make it even more simple for her. Just colouring a tiny space in a picture.
Yet we did a few wonders yesterday.
She said “Flower” so clearly. I didn’t have a flower on hand, so I drew one on a chalkboard for her.
She said “bubbles” a few times, and I immediately celebrated and brought out the bubbles. It was a fantastic moment as she was excited and said “bubbles” again, numerous times! We took turns blowing the bubbles and had lots of fun.
While she was isming with a toy (think it was cups), I decided to try something different. Instead of isming with the same toy…. I took out some coloured paper and scissors to ism with. I know she likes shapes, but dislikes cutting (as it is hard). So I thought to combine the two. Not pushing her to do the activity with me, but just cutting little circles, squares, rectangles, triangles… having a good time on my own. And prepare for future pasting art & craft activity. Eventually, she came over to look at what I was doing. It was so cool! Initially she would just look over and go back to her cups. Eventually though she came over for real and began playing with the little shapes, crushing them and taking them in and out of the container. I showed her how to cut paper, and lo behold she didn’t resist! She let me put her fingers through the scissors handle, while I held the paper for her, and snipped. In between playing with the cut out shapes, we would do this. When I showed her how to cut the shapes, then she was hooked. Now she voluntarily picked up the scissors and tried to cut the shapes herself! I was ecstatic of course. When she was done with the activity she moved off to play with something else. I think we had a good 15 mins of interactive play around this 🙂
I still wouldn’t say she loves cutting, but am happy to report she is now willing to explore it.
We drew on the mirror. A great creative activity and a nice way to work her upper arm muscles and motor skills through play.
She carried over the alphabet sheet and said, “A for Abby”! I almost fell over haha. Normally she just says “Abby” as her way of asking me to start singing the Sesame Alphabet song.
When we were over at my mum’s house, when I asked if she wanted to try some ice cream (Little Star doesn’t like it normally), she thought about it for a while and said “OK”! She only tried a tiny taste, but her verbal response was worth it.
When the front door was open, she pulled my hand and said, very softly, “Come!” She wanted me to take her home.
Also earlier, while I was doing something else, she looked at me and said very quietly, “tickle”. She wanted me to tickle her!
I notice when she is verbally requesting for something, which she does not do very often yet, she uses a tiny voice. As opposed to her babbling, which can be loud at times. Maybe she is not sure about her word use, or feels self-conscious about using it intentionally or saying what she wants out loud. Anyhow we celebrate like silly and respond immediately to it. This is the key thing about play therapy.
Always respond immediately to any verbal request. Forget your own agenda.
Your minimally verbal child just asked for something! Woohooo! Show her you are excited about her word and respond, respond, respond! Show her that her words move mountains!